Saturday, October 3, 2009

Made the big decision!

So, this week has been a plethora of changes that will affect me in the very near future! Some are small, like telling my mother that very soon I will not be handling her finances, as it has gotten to be too much on my plate. :) Which she took beautifully! And telling my uncle that he had to get all his stuff out of our garage because I need to be able to use it, to be able to pull in when it's cold/snowy with an infant. He has till monday to get it all out before I go get a storage unit and move it myslef! lol. But the two BIG decisions were these:

1) I am going to part time as of Nov. 1st. I was originally going to work full time until Nov. 15th and then go to a day a week until Dec. 1st. I realized that the idea of that has been making me feel more and more nervous, like I won't get things done that I need to do before she's here! I've had such a strong nesting urge as it is, and I was going crazy trying to figure out how it was going to work. Especially if she comes at 36 or 37 weeks instead of 40! That would mean she'd be here around the 15th or 20th of nov at the earliest.. That's only 6 weeks from NOW! So I told my boss that I needed to go to 3 days a week starting on the 1st of Nov. And I am leaving all together on the 15th of Nov. That way I (hopefully) get at least a couple weeks to get ready and RELAX! Until then, I'm pretty much working 7 days a week. Either at the resort, or doing shoots, or on the house and teaching.

2) We fully decided on a homebirth! Yup! I get to have my water birth! It's funny, I thought that once we made the choice, I'd get more nervous about it. I'm actually LESS nervous about a home birth then I was about the hospital. I feel so much more "right" about it. It can truly be very calm, and fun, and about US not us and the other 8 couples delivering down the hall. No pushy nurses, no chaotic docs or settings, I get to do things at MY pace, my husband is not going to be asked to "get out of the way" or leave. My sisters will be welcomed not pushed to the side. I can walk around naked lol. We can video tape the birth. And yes, we are. And yes, I will be posting it for women who are considering home water births so that they can actually see what it is like and make informed decisions. I was only able to find 3 videos on youtube that were at all helpful and I respected those women for sharing! And as a doula I can add some great voice over stuff to the labor/pushing parts that might help other moms too. :)

The hard thing about this was my appointment with my DR. (obgyn) yesterday. Where I had to tell her that I had chosen a homebirth and midwife instead. I wanted to keep her as my Dr. I have been happy with her care, I just have a very slim chance of her delivering me to begin with, and that's not the type of birth I've wanted anyway. She told me that while she will maintain as my GYN, she will not see me until 6 weeks post pardum. And that includes if I were to develop anything that would keep me from being ABLE to do a home birth. She told me I could find a different practice, they will not take me back as an OB patient. That was kind of hard to hear. Especially as my midwife was so willing to work with my Dr. Oh well. I still feel great about my decision.

I really am looking forward to a HAPPY and FUN birth! Which it seems my old Dr did not think was possible and even Billy thinks that I'm reaching a bit with that idea. But I truly truly believe that I CAN have a great time during labor and birth. I have faith in my body being strong, capable, and willing to do the work involved. Now don't get me wrong, I KNOW that it will be hard work! But I don't believe it has to be screaming agony. My goal is to have her with no yelling, no screaming, and not once saying "I can't do this". I want to be laughing, singing, smiling, and yes I'm sure the occasional Groan will escape me. Heck it does when you're doing sit ups! I guess I'm just hoping that my support team agrees with me and gives me those focusers and encouragments during the journey.

Allyson (my doula and very close friend) started our childbirth classes two weeks ago. I really am getting some great new ideas and tips and feeling very empowered through them. It's nice to be reminded that your body is built for this and being given so many different ways to help it do the work!

It's amazing to think that in 6-10 weeks, I will be holding my DAUGHTER. I will have a daughter! I'm so amazed and also so ...curious? I mean I can imagine to an extent what that will be like... but I truly have NO idea what that change will be like in reality. I mean I'm going to go from being a "carrier" one minute to a MOTHER the next.. Yes I know that I am technically a mother now, but I'm not doing any "mothering". I'm simply growing her, enjoying her movement, talking to her. It's going to be SUCH a dramatic life change.. one I can't even fathom. Hope she likes me! :)

Friday, September 18, 2009

Monday, September 7, 2009

OMG you have GOT to be kidding me!

So at 3am this morning I was woken up.
not by a dog.
not by a phone call.
not by my hubby.
not by a car alarm...

no. my 26 week old child KICKED me awake! and has procceeded to play and wiggle and stretch and roll and kick to such an extend the last three hours that not only is my stomach looking like there are a pack of aliens in there trying to get out... but I actually CAN"T sleep through it!!! AHHHH NOOO!!!!!

I'm gonna do my time of sleepless nights when she's here! This is MY time to sleep on command! *snif* it's not fair *snif*

It seems like she is finally slowing down a bit. I cannot belive she is actually strong enough to keep me awake. I am seriously mind-blown at this. And if this is happening now.. what is going to be happening at 35 weeks?!?!

sigh. ok going to try and go back to sleep. it's been three minutes without crazy movement. Maybe she's going back to sleep. Please Lord. oh please.

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Week 26

ok so I'm back to weekly updates, I swear! alot happened during week 25..
I got a new niece! Delilah Elizabeth Marie Mackey was born on the 3rd at 10:07am. And she is beautiful! I miss the "belly bond" that I had with my sister.. but in just three short months I'll have the "mommy bond" with her. So I can wait for that I'm sure. :)

Watching Delilah being born was like watching Jasmine being born all over again, an overwhelming sense of love and devotion that is topped only by my feelings for my husband. Amazingly I know that that is absolutely nothing in comparison to what I will feel for Aurora. It's funny, I can't wait for her to be here and yet I also love the connection I have with her inside me. Sometimes it's a little bit of a tug of war for me, I want her here now but I also want to be pregnant with her forever. Well you know what I mean. Have that constant connection with her.

I'm starting to make some changes in my life too. I'm starting to get very nesty of course, but I'm also starting to get more organized about maintaining the house. Picking a day a week to fully clean and trying to do "pick up" in two rooms a day. That way it's only a little bit of work that I can easily do. Also starting to try and manage my time better. Friends, work, and training all has it's place but I think that I have often bitten off far more than I can chew. I am looking at dropping my second job so I have a little more time for my training. Also going to try and have one day a week for a "friends" day and maybe host a tea and cake thing at my house weekly to catch up and then have poker nights ect. as they come up. That way I still get my time with friends but dont' feel overwhelmed by it. Hope it works!

SO enough of the boring stuff about me and my life!

What is the baby doing right now you ask?

aside from kicking and wiggling all the time, here are the weekly stats:

*she is over 2 pounds!! AHHH!!!! milestone!
*15" long too! (at least) which is longer than an english cucumer. (I ask you, who measures according to an english cucumber? really? we couldn't find a more common item folks? really? what about a loaf of bread? something? no? oh well)
*ears are still getting more and more sensitive, she responds to all kinds of noises now!
*lungs and brain are continuing to strengthen and the brain is storing new info and sounds in the memory banks! Pretty cool huh?
*her sense of balance is well developed and she is heavy enough to be affected by my movements (laying on a side ect.. will move her now)
*IF she were to be born now her survival chances would be over 80%.. which is 40% more than it was when my mom was pregnant with me. Amazing what advances in medicine have come along! But don't worry she'll be cooking for a long time still. 3 more months!

I'm officially mostly done with the dreaded 2 month 6th month. lol.. at 24 weeks you "should" be going into the third trimester but instead you stay in the second for ANOTHER 4 weeks. Hence the 9 month pregnancy that is really a 10 month ordeal. Sigh... oh well.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Pic catch up lol...

ok so I know I haven't updated for a bit and I'm sorry! I'm now 25 weeks (26 tomorrow!) and loving it! I think I'm one of the few women who truly loves being pregnant. Every part of it, even the heartburn! (yes folks I finally have SOMETHING to complain about lol) Other than heartburn and an ever dissapearing bellybutton... I've been changing in other ways too.
My boobs have of course grown again! GEEZ guys seriously, you'd think they're expecting to feed an army! My tummy is getting rounder and rounder which I love. So far.....No stretch marks! Not a one! I've had little ones on my hips for years, and those don't seem to be getting any worse either thank God.

And I've only had one episode of it but... mood swing.

Oh lord poor Billy last week! (thursday to be exact) I had been cleaning and building web pages on my day off, felt really accomplished. He woke up and when I asked him to help with stuff he did. Then I went to the kitchen and saw that the dog food bag was still sitting on the floor. Now why in Heavens name this of all things set me off I'll never know. So I get all huffy, pick up the bag and start pouring it into the container. Billy starts to exclaim " what are you doing?!? that's over 30lbs!! stop! put it down!"

my rational responce? "If I don't do it it'll never get done, no one does anything around here, ect ect ect" and BOY did I blow up. Slamming things, yelling like mad for the next 15 minutes...and then lol.. the coup de gras...

"I'M SO UNAPPRECIATED AROUND HERE!!!!!!!!!"

which is hysterical because Billy is always telling me how much he loves me how much he appreciates what I do ect ect. He gives me foot rubs every night if I want them, brings me milk for heartburn, takes care of the dogs, ect. He just doesn't clean like I do, big whoop! He is amazing so I think it's so funny that the insult I could think of was TOTALLY invalid. lol.

Now for this half hour I rant, rave, cry, ect. Mind you about 5 mins into this I realize that none of this is valid and that I have no idea why I feel the way I do at ALL. So in between my bitching and yelling, I'm crying and saying "I hate feeling like this, I know none of this is real, I just can't help it I'm so mad and upset and I know I have no reason to be ... but I can't stop it. " and then bitching some more. Seriously, a three year old would be put to shame by the temper tantrum I was having!

this whole time Billy is laying on the bed silent.. just riding it out. I stand there finally, my fists at my sides, tears on my face, lips stuck out, and in a quiet little voice say " I don't like this".

well that did it, he cracks a big smile tell ms to come here and holds me while I curl up on his chest like a 4 year old all quiet crying about how I hate not being in control of my emotions. And we both end up laughing about how ridiculous I was being. And I knew it the whole time too! That's part of what made it so funny! In between ranting sentences I'm appologizing and recanting everything I had just said. lol.

THANK GOD I"VE ONLY HAD ONE!!!!! and please Lord, I ask you, NEVER AGAIN!!!!
It was HORRIBLE!! and some women do that daily?!! God bless their friends and family!


Other than that, I just continue to work full time and started playing World of Warcraft again.. which I REALLY missed!!!

My sister has been starting and stopping labor the last few days so that's been the big excitement lately. Can't wait to meet little Delilah! :) C'mon kiddo!!

Aurora is getting really big, as of today she is about 1.7 to 1.8lbs and 14" long!
all of her systems are developed and in place, a perfect little mini person!
She's moving LOTS and boy can you see and feel it! She responds to all kinds of sounds now and amazes me daily with her responces. It's just little reminders that she is already her own person! with her own tastes and desires.

My favorite thing is laying on the couch and watching/feeling her kick and roll and wiggle. She stretches a LOT! I can feel her down by my pubic bone at the same time that I feel her a few inches above my belly button now! So big!! WOW!
OH, and guess how big my uterus is now?
just guess..
here's a hint.. it was smaller than a baseball pre pregnancy.


Give up?

a volleyball. I have a volleyball inside my stomach.

I'm officially a walking sports center.



in addition to being a coruncoipia of fruit/vegetables, seeing as how she is now the size of a rutebega. Photobucket
Heck at this point I'm almost more of a vegan kitchen!

ok so pics of what the baby looks like right now:
week 25 faceweek 25/26 body


SLIDESHOWS!!!!!!


and what I look like now! ack! lol,jk.. I loves it!


and week 24:


and at 23 weeks:


and here's what I looked like at 21 weeks:


growin quite a bit!



Friday, August 7, 2009

Week 22

So this week we're workin on a few things and a few things have finished developing! (yes things more important than eyebrows lol)

*weighing in at somewhere between 15 and 16 oz... it's ... Aurora!
*now OVER a foot long! YIEEE!!!
*we now look like a miniature newborn. starting to get some fat on the cheeks and the eyes, ears, nose, lips, are much more distinct.
*Her eyeballs are fully formed BUT the Iris has no pigment yet!! I had no idea that they started out blank!
*pancreas is really moving along in development
*she has started making and regulating her own hormones!
*inner ear is now developed to the point that she has her own sense of balance
-promotes physical dexterity, which has her actively feeling out her
surroundings, skin, and body parts.


cool huh?

Friday, July 31, 2009

EYEBROWS!!! (aka, week 21)

ok so I think this is awesome...
Her eyebrows are fully formed and filled out!! How freaking cool is that?!?! Oh yeah and so are her eyelids!

and I was thinking yesterday (cause she wasn't nearly as active as normal) that she must be gearing up for another growth spurt..
well, I just found out that that is right!

*She wieghs about 3/4 of a lb now, maybe a touch more and is over 11" long now.
*And she'll gain an ounce and half within this week!! Which means in four days or so, she'll weigh over a pound!! 16.5 ounces or so!
WOW! To put that growth spurt into perspective: a week ago she only
weighed 10.5 ounces or so. She weighs at the moment about 14.8... so OVER
four ounces in a WEEK!! oh geez...

*another REALLY cool thing that happens a LOT now.. R.E.M. which means that she is consistantly dreaming on a daily basis! How cool is that!! wonder what she's dreaming while I"m dreaming.. wonder if she gets any of my dreams somehow? what a cool thought.

*the "brown fat" which is what helps you maintain and retain body heat is starting to grow which is a REALLY good thing as this is what helps her regualate her body heat too once she's out.

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Sunday, July 26, 2009

it's a .......GIRL!!!!!!!

we had our big ultrasound at 19weeks 5 days and we got the amazing news! It is officially Aurora Eve, our little girl!
girl girl girl!!!and... it's a.....GIRL!!!

and we got some amazing shots of her face too!!
19w 5d she was snuggling in19w 5d face!!!19w 5d face she was talkin' lolPhotobucket
of course she doesn't really have any body fat so it still looks a little skeletal but isn't that awesome?!?!?!

and we got the traditional shots too:
19w 5d profile (yes she has a neck lol)


and look at this one with her eye looking all crazy!!
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and this is one of my favs lol, she was pointing and laughing at the ultrasound tech trying to get her to move haha!!!
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her Auntie Amber and Auntie Tiffany and her cousin Jasmine were with us for this ultrasound and it was awesome! She was kicking and "talking" (moving her mouth open and closed ect) sooo much! And we found out that the circumference of her head is now over 4"... oh geez! That makes me a little nervous but I think I can do it! She is going to be so amazing and I just can't wait!

Billy and I are so excited to have a girl, we have both been hoping so hard for one and low and behold, here she is!!

I started doing the nursery a bit this week, just the bare bones of clearing out my office stuff and organizing the furniture a bit, we still have to paint ect.. but it feels good making progress!

oh another fun thing, I have a little bit of bruising around my bellybutton from the stretching lol. She kicks there all the time too!

20 weeks

she is now as long as a banana and weighs about 12 ounces and is over 10 1/2" long!! WOW!
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she, yes SHE!!! is swallowing a lot and "talking" a lot (moving and opening her mouth as we saw constantly on the ultrasound) and getting all of her muscles working.
I swear she has turned into the hulk over the last few days. In LITERALLY the span of one day she went from a point where you could feel her move to where you could just sit there and watch my belly move!! SO STRONG! it's amazing!
We went to the TOOL concert last week and she dug it. Lots of kicking and rolling :)

I am also loosing my bellybutton, ME the one with the cavernous belly button.. it may possibly become an outie ACK!!!

20 week bellybutton20 week bellybutton close20 week bellybutton close
I know, three pics is a bit extreme, but I'm kinda traumatized!!!!

and as I was sitting here doing this I took a pic for fun, I'll add a better one later today:
20 week belly
isn't it getting all round? :) I LOVE IT!!!

19 & 18 & 17 weeks photos

So I was aweful the last couple weeks in photo taking because I was working a lot and had other stuff going on.

for week 17 this is what I got:
week 17 basketball
a basketball lol

and at that point I could still kinda suck it in like this:
week 17 side

But I did go to Harry Potter (sigh.. they did such a good job maiming the story!) and now the baby has a pic wearing potter gear lol.
week 18
18 week belly
Photobucket and ok, I look like poop, but hey it was a LOOONNGGG day!


and look how amazingly developed her ears are at this point!!!
ear at 18 weeks

and this is what they say she should be bundled up like by now, but I think she has more room than this:
all curled up at 18 weeks


week 19
ok officially my belly does not get smaller when I lay down now lol
week 19


She is of course pretty much just getting bigger and getting body fat now. All her senses are working and of course getting stronger but nothing "new" is developing these last couple weeks.

Friday, July 17, 2009

WEEK 19

ok so now that you've caught up on last weeks stuff, let's talk about this weeks stuff! (wow, can you believe that in 4 days I'll be halfway through my pregnancy?!!?)

we start measuring the legs this week! so now she is officially:
10-11" long! (they say 10" but since her legs were sooo long last month, I'm willing to be we have an extra inch in there!)

how long/tall is that? well, it's just an inch shy of barbies hight! wow! and obviously a lot bigger lol, seeing as how barbie is a bit annorexic looking. :)

what else is going on?

*weighs over 8.5 ounces! more than half a pound!
*hair is starting to sprout!! hooray for non baldness!
*heart is pumping more than 30 quarts a day!
well I'm at work so that's all i can post now. be back on later

Thursday, July 16, 2009

WEEK 18

ok so technically as of today I'm a full 19 weeks, but I wanted to post the cool developments of week 18! :) I did some fun things while 18 weeks pregnant and I am sooo glad I did! I went on a medieval camping trip (Lonely Mountain-SCA event) last weekend and it was a blast!!!! I bellydanced at least a few hours each night and the baby LOVED it! She would "dance" with me, when I did a maya hip roll to the left, she'd roll right.. when I did it to the right, she'd roll left... over and over, like a game! Also found out if I did belly drops, she'd kick on the second one, in time with me, every time! hee hee.. everyone was joking that she's gonna come out wearing a jingly belt and shimmying lol. I also started my new job last week. I love it! I'm now working at Encantado Resort in NM. A VERY high end resort that truly captures the essense of fine customer service, which is what I love! My co-workers are fantastic and all are excited about the baby too. Then only draw back is that I'm on my feet 8 hours a day. Which is having some fun side effects...aka.. severe ankle swelling. I get home and I don't have ankles.. I have cankles. So swollen that it kind of looks like my ankles/feet are made out of that fake rubber stuff. But hey, if that's the only "bad" pregnancy thing I get, I'm set!!! Switching shoes today helped so we'll see how it goes.

Anyway, "she" continues to get really strong every day, you can often watch her kicking now, not just feel it. Still everytime she moves/kicks it amazes me. Everytime. To think that I have a whole other person inside me, who is building her likes,dislikes, personality... what a trip!!

ok, enough ramble.. on to the stuff you guys read this for: the updates:

*grown up enough to yawn when feeling tired of moving around
*6" long from head to butt!!! aahhh getting big!
*weighs about 1/2 a pound now! WOW! lol, ok so that's only 8oz.. but still...
*body is covered with lanugo—soft hairs and covered in vernix, a white, cheesy "cream" that protects her skin from the long bath in amniotic fluid

by now all the organs are of course doing most of their own work as they have been so that's not new.. She's just getting bigger and stronger! :)

post more later today with the CURRENT WEEK 19 UPDATES AND PICS!

Sunday, July 12, 2009

Due date coolness

just found out that not only did I come exactly on my due date, but so did my mom! AND we were both born at EXACTLY 11:21am and we were BOTH 21" long. My mom and I were like twins lol. And now I am having so far an identical pregnancy to my moms with me. Felt movement early, no back pain, (well she had a teeny bit of nausea and I haven't), and I have a uterus that's tilted just like hers. Oh and I have her hips too lol. And her boobs doubled in size the first two months two lol. Seriously this is soo funny to me!

well, maybe I'll get her super easy 6 hour labor and 3 push birth!

Saturday, July 4, 2009

Week 17

ok so we are now at 17 weeks and 3 days. It's amazing how quickly this is going! the baby has been doing awesome things every week and really, I know I've said this a bunch of times, but it's hard to believe that SO much is happening in the span of just a few days!!! Like last night, I lay there for about 20 minutes just feeling her kick and roll and play around. 20 minutes! this morning so far, it's been 15 minutes! It used to be a kick here or there, maybe a few minutes of movment at a time, now... well, it just gets more and more profoundly "in my face" that there is a little person growing inside me. And I am so grateful and so amazed everytime I feel "her".

I am having some concerns, mostly about how it's going to be with my mom coming back home. I'm worried about how much care she'll need, how overbearing she may be during my pregnancy and after the baby is here. Don't get me wrong, my mother is a child/baby GURU! no lie! but I don't want her hovering over me at 3am when the baby is crying or anything.. I guess I'm just a little worried about not having a seperate home. But we'll see! It might be wonderful and I'm worrying over nothing! :)

ok: so baby developements!

*over 5" long from head to butt now, and over 5 ounces!!!!!
*she is moving a LOT the last few days!
*this week marks the begining of "getting fat" for the baby!Fat helps their
heat/metabolism. This week the baby will have .018 oz of fat on "her"
body. By birth: 2/3 of body weight will be fat!! wow!
*the limbs are in normal porportion to the body and will stay like this until birth.
*the placenta is growing at the same rate with the baby now, and will weigh over a
pound at birth! It also is fully taking care of all the babies needs while
allowing the baby to do some of it's own "work" too!
*eyes are where they will be when the baby is born, and the ears are now "popping"
out more. (the "bowl" of the ear developing)
*"she" is developing reactions and personality responces (likes/not likes certain things) that will remain consistent. For instance, if certain types of music make
"her" move and wiggle happily, it is a sign that "she" enjoys it. When she
balls up in a tight spot and pushes into it (which hurts!!) it is a sign
that "she" doesn't like something. And those reactions will remain
consistant. Her reactions to voices is fun too! She REALLY likes certain
people!
*this week the parts of the brain that process other senses (sight, feel, taste) are
growing and developing FAST!
*all the joints are workable now, fingers, toes, neck, ect..
*the skeleton continues to harden and build more calcium!
*sweat glands are starting to develop
*the umbilical cord is getting very strong and thick now
*AND if we are in fact having a girl (2 1/2 more weeks to find out!) her ovaries are aready producing millions of primordial eggs, which in just a few weeks will become actual eggs!

***one thing I have thought is amazing for a while now is that for all the mothers who have had little girls think of this: you have already held every grandchild you will ever have from her. Isn't that amazing?!?! You are in essence carrying not just one generation in you, but two. Wow right?

There is SOOO MUCH that is going on this week!!!!! Isn't it incredible???

oh yeah, she's the size and weight of a turnip now lol
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Thursday, July 2, 2009

Week 16 belly! I'm lovin' it!!